http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YUqSll_qvE8
This would mean that any dialogue predicated on the assumption that "patriarchy" even exists AT ALL, is a conversation that should not be happening. Full stop. As a non-feminist man or woman, you would have zero obligation to engage in such a conversation for any reason. And why? Because: such a conversation would be a feminist conversation, and as a non-feminist you may rightfully abstain. And any feminist who might engage you in feminist terms is just bloody ill-mannered and bound to apologize for the arrogant imposition and presumption.
That said, it also occurs to me that the idea of patriarchy is co-optable -- which means that we could make an exception to the above generalizations. I have sketched this idea lightly in the following comment that I left on Wooly Bumblebee's YouTube channel. (As always, click to enlarge.):
So as you can see, feminism and "the patriarchy" are actually business partners working to empower women for the purpose of keeping lower-ranking males in their place. The more you study the objective state of the world, the more sense this begins to make. (It always helps to entertain the question "cui bono?") Of course, this system would not work without an extensive network of male sycophants, white knights, poodle-boys, etc.... lending their support.
